Tuesday, November 8, 2016

News from the Hughes

Hi Everyone:

Connor married Carla Conca Rodriguez on October 8, 2016. So much has been going on the last 2 months and I was trying to just write one blog that included everything.  But, it’s taking too long.  To speed things up I decided to just do a blog about the wedding, and then later I’ll fill you in on everything else we’ve been up to the last 2 months.

So, this Blog is going to be all about the wedding, and our whacky adventure in getting to Spain and being a part of the celebration…. Thanks again to everyone for your wonderful words of congratulations, the cards, and a special THANK YOU to those friends that were able to come and the US to share this wonderful event with us. You helped make it extra special!

NOW, ON WITH THE SHOW….. 

First, I wanted to share with you what was done with all of the messages and signs you sent us for the kids.  The video was put together by her family and given to the kids as a fond memory of the friends and family who love them. Just copy and paste  the link below to see the video on YouTube:


The Girl’s Can’t Fly to Spain…

So, like any other International trip the girls and I had spent the weeks prior to leaving getting things organized around the house.  We have 3 dogs and a friend of ours offered to house sit and take care of them for the 5 weeks we’d be gone.  There were dresses to get made and fitted for (the girls were in the wedding and I just wanted to look nice), packing to do, and all the other plans that go along with being gone from home for 5 weeks.  But, everything came together and it was finally time to leave. 

The girls and I arrive at the Santa Cruz airport on 9/26/2016 at 5:30 am. Except as we go through Immigration, we’re told that Priscilla can’t fly to Spain – I PUT THIS UP THERE WITH ONE OF THE TOP STUPID AND FRUSTRAING THINGS WE’VE BEEN THROUGH THE LAST 3 YEARS. 

It was one of those surreal moments that you make you question “Why of why did I come to another country to serve? Why does it feel like this world is always messing with us?  Why does life have to be so complicated sometimes?”  I just wanted to scream, pull my hair out and yell ACK.  Except what good what that really have done?

Come to find out Bolivia had recently in-acted this new law where minors need a special document to leave the country from whatever spouse isn’t with them – in this case Andy!  Had she been going back to the US, it wouldn’t have been a problem, but because she was trying to visit Spain – that wasn’t allowed.  Keep in mind that Pris turned 18 just 2 days later.

Anyway, me, Aubri, and Pris tried everything to get that girl on the plane – we begged, pleaded, cried – nothing would sway the powers that be.  Finally Aubri (always the cool head) turns to me and tells me to get on the plane.  How could I leave them like that at the airport?  But, Aubri tells me Connor needs to have at least one parent at his wedding and her and Pris would figure something out.  So, with a heavy heart I board the plane, turn to the window and start crying.  Pris and Aubri head back to my friend’s apartment in Santa Cruz – also now crying. 

DO YOU EVER HAVE THOS MOMENTS WHEN YOUR LIFE FEELS LIKE A CRAZY SOAP OPERA?

Anyway, I get to Peru (my first layover) and desperately try to contact the girls only to find that we have to buy 2 new tickets after Pris turns 18 (again just 2 days later).  They did give us credit for the first tickets bought (which we can use next Summer to visit Connor), but we now have to come up with another $2000 – it was awful -- and it looked like the girls weren’t going to be able to come. 

Anyway, I show up at the Barcelona airport without my girls – feeling a bit down -- and there to meet me are Connor, Carla and her mom.  All the stress and cares of the last 30 hours (yep, my trip was that long) just melted away. We leave the airport, I’m exhausted and jet-lagged, and Carla and her mom decide to take me for a bit of shopping for the wedding.  Again, another one of those surreal moments!  But, in their defense they just wanted me to be a part of everything.  It turned out to be a wonderful afternoon.  We did a bit of shopping for stuff, drank chilled wine at one of their pretty outdoor cafes, and I had another special, bonding moment with Carla.  I even got to help her pick out the pretties for her hair on the big day.

Later that night Carla, Connor, and I have a nice, quiet dinner at a pub in Segur de Calafell.  I SURVIVED THE ORDEAL – DAY 1, I CLIMB INTO BED, IMMEDIATELY CRASH, KNOWING I CAN JUST CHILL THE NEXT DAY.

Day 2 – Carla arrives at 9:00 in the morning (which for me is still 3:00 am Bolivia time) and invites me to go with her to do a trial run for her hair for the wedding.  It was honestly so sweet and I love this little gal and her efforts to include me – BUT MAMA IS SEMI-CATATONIC.  But, I quickly get dressed, grab some coffee and it’s off to the salon for a practice run.  It was nice and the salon gave me yet more wonderful coffee. We were even able to make appointments for Aubri and Pris to get their hair and make-up done the morning of the wedding.  Later we head for dinner with Carla’s family.  DAY 2

The next few days were spent helping to get things ready.  Connor and Carla have this adorable, little apartment about 4 blocks from the beach, and they were busy getting it ready for their move.  So, the next few days were just spent running errands for the wedding, working, and just enjoying being back in Spain.  Barcelona is really such a city.

Could I picture myself renting a cute apartment by the beach in Segur de Calfell – you betcha! I could definitely see myself sitting on the balcony of a cute place, sipping my coffee, watching the ocean tide come in.  The only challenge is that the preaching isn't good -- I think it's worse than the states. And for now, I’m still really lovin’ Bolivia – but who knows what the future holds?

A Bridal Shower for Carla…
Aubri and Pris arrive in Barcelona (4 days before the wedding) and still NO REST FOR THE WEARY.  The girls and I had planned on throwing Carla a Bridal Shower (not a custom in Spain) and last minute we turned it into a Guy/Gal Welcome to Barcelona/Bridal Shower party for our friends and Carla’s Family.  Aubri, Pris, and I pulled it all together and it turned out to be a really fun and nice day.

The first part of the party was Guys and Gals, we ate, drank, and were merry.  Then, we shipped the guys upstairs to the pool while we did the actual shower. Big surprise, they were fine with sitting by the pool, sipping on chilled lemon beer and doing guy stuff.  Check on the video on You Tube…..


The Big Day Is Here… If I had to sum up in a few words the wedding event (as you know it's hard for me to say anything in just a few words) I would say LOTS OF ENERGY, LOTS OF GOOD FOOD, AND LOTS OF DANCING = 11 HOURS OF FESTIVITIES.
   
Connor and Carla decided to have a wedding that combined the customs of both Spain and the United States -- they had a Bridal Party, which is not the custom in Spain.  Carla’s sister was her Maid of Honor and her other sister along with Aubri, Priscilla and a family friend were Bridesmaids.

 We had 28 friends come for the wedding from Sweden, Bolivia, England, the U.S., and Poland – some friends we hadn’t seen in years.  It was sooooooo special to have all of them with us in Spain for such a happy event.

The girls all looked beautiful and the guys were handsome. 

Then, Carla walked down the aisle with her father.  She looked so stunning and her dress was absolutely beautiful.  It’s hard to see the detail from the video, but it was really beautiful.
Her uncle (Andras) gave the wedding talk in Spanish, and a friend of ours from Sweden translated the talk into English.  He compared Connor and Carla’s marriage to a ship voyage where he’s the captain who needs a supportive crew.  He compared each part of the ship to each part of marriage, and how it all is needed to successfully reach your destination (life together in the new world).  Then, at the end of the talk he gave Connor and Carla a model ship to remind them of their journey together.  SNIFF, SNIFF!

Then, Carla’s father (who doesn’t speak much English) gave a closing prayer in English.  In his prayer he says that Connor’s father isn’t in his life right now, and while he’s not Connor’s father, he views Connor as his son (he has 3 daughters but not a son).  SNIFF, SNIFF!

The kids took the time to take photos with everyone that wanted a personal photo with them and it gave everyone a personal momento of the day (one of many).  Now, it was on to the Reception…..

9 ½ Hours of Fun with Friends & Family….


So, the wedding talk and photos took about 1 ½ hours and then it was on to the reception for another 9 ½ hours of activity – About this time me and my girls slip into some flats!


The reception was a 20-minute drive to a beautiful venue on the beach. First, they had appetizers, wine and champagne for 110 guests (close friends and family). I couldn’t believe how much food and wine they put out for everyone – was this really just snacks? 


Next, we head inside for a formal dinner….The food was really good and the kids sat at a table with their parents (I sat next to Connor & Carla on the left and her parents were to the right).


In Spain it’s common for the meals to have a first and second course. At the reception our first course was this amazing seafood salad followed by beef iN a puff pastry with sliced potatoes and vegetables.  Everything was really  yummy! AND OF COURSE, THERE WAS MORE WINE.  each course was welcomed with music, clapping, and everyone waving their napkins in the air – LIKE I SAID, VERY FESTIVE!

The kids had made gifts for each family (a glass bottle with sand and a personal note from them to each family.  Then, the gals got another gift of fingernail polish that matched the color of the girl’s dresses in the wedding.

A Special Surprise for Connor & Carla…. One of the families that came to the wedding are friends of ours that live in Bolivia 6 months and Sweden 6 months - The Borg Family! Not only did Stefan translate the wedding talk in English, but Evita’s father planned a special musical treat for Connor and Carla…..

Next, Carla loves ABBA and her parents and good friends of theirs put together a video of her favorite ABBA songs -- it was hilarious and really touching. They gave the video to them at the wedding. The video is about 15 minutes long, but here is just a sample....



Gifts for Family & Friends…..


One of the customs at a Spanish Wedding is for the Bride & Groom to give out gifts to close family and friends. I was given a large bouqet of my favorite flowers and a beautiful necklace that I saw my first day in Spain, had decided not to buy (because of the price), and then to my surprise the kids gave me the necklace at the wedding.   

Presents were also given to Carla’s parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, and close family friends. ALL TO DANCING -- LOTS AND LOTS OF DANCING.  I honestly don’t know how Connor and Carla found the energy to keep up the pace. Oh, to be young again!

Next We Have Dancing Cake…
Then, the cake is brought out – again to music!  

AND I DON’T EVEN REMEMBER HOW OR WHY THIS DANCE GOT STARTED!

Let’s Get This Party Started…



After the Dinner the kids had invited 80 more guests – other friends -- who were served finger foods and drinks and then all of us head downstairs for dancing…











   AND MORE DESSERT.....
The truth is it doesn’t take much to get Spanish people to dance.  I learned it doesn’t take much to get all Europeans to dance – JUST THIS….  

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=68lVE6GsQYE&feature=youtu.be

After the kids got in they all went and grabbled their parents or friends and dragged them out onto the dance floor. Connor came and got me.  The rest of the night the dance floor was packed, and 11 hours later the day had ended, the first of my children was married, and the next few days the girls and I enjoyed spending time with the friends who had come (the kids were on a 10-day honeymoon in the Canary Islands).

Because there hadn’t been much time to visit before the wedding, we tried to make the most of our last few days with everyone. Ann and Jasmine were the last to leave and the girls and I felt some sadness and a bit of homesickness as they got on their plane and headed back to Indianapolis.

Photo Fond Memories…..

One of my other gifts from the kids was my own Wedding Album and professional photos, but I had to leave before they were ready.  Connor is trying to get me on-line access but I might have to wait to get them when I go back to visit in July. In the meantime, a lot of friends sent me these photos.  HOPE YOU ENJOY!

The Trip Home and our English Convention

The girls and I left Spain and headed back to Bolivia just in time for our 3-day Convention in English at the Bethel Branch. I had attended the convention in Spanish and a friend had sent me her notes in English (which helped me so much to follow along). But still, so much was missed and now we got to soak up each and every precious minute of the program.

It’s such a loving gift that the Bethel Branch gives to us. They even hosted a Pioneer School in English the week after the convention.  It’s those things that helps keep us all here and keeps us going.

We left for Tarija the Tuesday after the convention and got home safe and sound.   When I’m back home with our friends and the San Lorenzo congregation, it's hard to  imagine being anywhere else, and the thought of leaving our congregation and our friends is just hard.  We got back just as a family in our congregation was having to leave for Argentina.  Their 5-year old daughter needs heart surgery and there is a chance the surgery will be done for free if they can go to Argentina.  So, we got back and then scrambled to help the family get ready for their trip. We’re all waiting right now on pins and needles to see what’s going on and if she’s alright.  

So, while I treasure the wedding in my heart and always will, it’s time to jump back into our life here in Bolivia, trying to do what we can to encourage and in the process also be encouraged.

We miss all of you and I hope you enjoy the blog.  I’m going to try and finish up the other blog that’s more about Bolivia and what we’ve been up to the last 2 – wait make that 3 months??????

Love Tracy

 




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